Hot is More Than Just a Temperature
I am so ridiculously sick of seeing pages that supposedly support health and fitness posting pictures of people and asking their followers to rate how hot they are on a scale of 1 to 10. Not is it just degrading because 90% of the women in the pictures are mostly naked, but they all pretty much fit the same mold of super skinny women. How is this hot? Shouldn’t we be promoting that all bodies types are beautiful and can be attractive or that healthy and strong is beautiful and sexy? What a concept, that people in the fitness community should be setting a good example of how to love your body!
One of the things that I have realized in the past few months is that I can’t stand the word ‘hot’ being used to describe people. I hate that we use it to describe people, I hate that it objectifies anyone that it is used in conjunction with and implies that you are only as good as you look. That kind of mentality tells people that they are only there to be looked at and that it doesn’t really matter what kind of personality you have as long as you are attractive. Because let’s face it, you’re obviously only a sex object, right?
I had a conversation with a friend of mine earlier this year where at one point he asked me why all the hot girls were so mean, not having a clue about what was about to rain down on him. I lit into him about why are guys only attracted to the hot girls, instead of the nice girls or the smart girls or the funny ones or the pretty ones. That it sends a message that to be loved you have to be hot and if you spent your life hating yourself because you were trying so hard to fit into that mold, that you would probably be angry and mean too. So that maybe, if he wanted a quality woman, that he should start looking for one whose personality blew him away because the looks will come and go and in the end, aren’t the most important part.
It makes me sad for our society that many people will judge you based on your appearance, whether it is because you are skinny or fat, tattooed or have piercings, based on how you dress, etc. The sad fact that we teach our children to hate themselves for how they look and that no matter what, they will never be as ‘hot’ as they could be. Ask even the prettiest girl in the room, I guarantee you that there is something that she would change about herself. And don’t be fooled into believing that women are the only people affected by this kind of mentality. Men have it just as bad; it’s just not as widely publicized. We need to learn to stop hating our bodies and LOVE them, no matter what stage they are at.
I would so much rather be called pretty or attractive or beautiful than ‘hot’, if you even have to comment on my looks at all. I’m angry at society for being so shallow that many people will completely write you off without ever getting to know you based on how you look and that we continue to support these industries and the poisonous messages that they send. I’m angry because how is it fair to send the message that no one wanted to love me and be with me when I was myself, but fat, but if all the sudden I get fit and strong (which would make me smaller than I was to begin with), that BINGO! That’s the ticket to be wanted? How much bullshit is that? And here I am, getting angry with people who are looked up to by their fans/followers, etc. for setting what I consider to be a bad example. And getting irrationally angry with someone I haven’t even met yet because they weren’t here to love me when I was bigger. Makes total sense, right?
Check out BeautyRedefined.Net, Fit Villains, and Fit Mama Training on Facebook for amazingly positive messages about loving your body wherever it’s at! I know that I have found them all massively inspirational!